Actress Sameera Reddy about Pregnancy & Happy life in conversation with Dr.Mani Pavitra||MillionMoms

Actress Sameera Reddy about Pregnancy & Happy life in conversation with Dr.Mani Pavitra||MillionMoms


Music hello mothers… welcome back… I am Dr. ManiPavitra… Founder of millionmoms.. and it gives me great pleasure to have someone who represents confidence in the fullest form…. how a women should be when she is in her full potential….That’s what you get to see and Welcome SAMEERA Thank you… I cant tell you how happy I am here to have you and see you like this… I m so glad to be here… because when I met you also I felt this gonna be a funny interview because she is not gonna hold back… I am not to hide… so this is going to be fun.. (Laughs) Awesome…. you know especially in south where literally there is not even a single snap of a pregnant heroin available… You just see some jodhumarai shot…. all most like a jewelley add laughs and smiles and suddenly its with baby and finished… the surprising part is even that also we dont get and the entire population no matter how educated they are… how many degrees they have but we still like to follow the heroines…the one’s who are on screen… and for imagine,… you just two glam-shots with different pictures… and we don’t get to see the reality… How come it doesn’t happen to me… and we think we wont be that image which is not true…. So much pressure of trying to be a supermom… tryin g to look good and trying to do lot many things.. It’s just that the baby comes out and wow you just look know…..(laughs) and first of all I would love to congratulate you for being the path breaking person in this field… You know I didn’t choose to be it… i was off also on social media… because for my first pregnancy… I did what most people do….I just shutup I got scared because south was such a big… though I am from Bollywood…. the love I get from south fans will always have me responsible towards them….. I dont know why.. because lot of Hindi actress do for south and they just say… “Oh! we just did it on the side” For me I feel the respect is actually much bigger… the whole thing is much stronger for me there… so, I felt that… I just need not talk about it… as most people do… In-fact, many people didn’t even know I go married… and many people didn’t know I had a son… what happened is unfortunately or fortunately… three months ago i was at an event and a guy asked me do you think you will be look like Kareena Kapoor, after you give birth mam,.. or you be an Aishwarya Rai.. this is the words he literally told me…. Aishwarya for me is.. she is amazing…. I was so angry, and I lashed out in a full form… in front of all the cameras.. I was like where did you think you came from… you came from a mother womb… Did she look hot, when you gave birth to you? I said don’ set such standards… Kareena kapoor is agorgeous mother… Our kids go the same school, and she has set her own standards It can be your and my standards.. and from there it just got picked up and I started getting questioned about it… you know and my husband said…” Oh , no… here we go” I see the lion is being poked… (laughs and smiles) and I said, he helped me wake-up and realize that… i was also being a coward, by shutting up and I didn’t have the first best pregnancy….I had postpartum, depression, I had put on weight and I chickened out and I sat quietly just shut inside…. so, I decided, I am gonna get on to my Instagram, and say whatever I want…. which actually is been very liberating for me…. and slowly it evolved into a photo-session, and when people asked do you want to cover with some shun and i was like Hell No…. Here we go… (laughs) and i have not put up the pictures that I actually wanted to put up this is me being calm down….. But… it feels so good, and its not done with any intention of trying to be different…. and it is not with the intention of wanting to be trolled… It’s with the intention that, I struggled…. and i am nothing to loose now… you dont want to give me a south film producers… Don’t…. It doesn’t matter…. I will find something else… but its nice to come out and call it… and say that… It’s not so beautiful… and it’s not so pres tine… and the standards that we set for ourselves when we get married, and the beautiful adds that cater to that perfect godumarai, baby…. It is actually perfect….. but it is your own version of perfect….if you compare to somebody else you would definitely not feeling happy… and you said it very correctly… your kind of perfect…that is what everymom needs to know if you going through the difficult phase that’s ok, but I cannot be compared to another mothers… everyone has their own kind of perfect… If you have any great pregnancy that’s great. It’s your kind of perfect….. but some of us have issues…. like you had so many issues together..but you battled it so bravely… that’s where I want to admit that when I got married I had a vision that I would be perfectly beautiful and this little baby bumps… and I can walk around in heels…on red carpets and it would be so amazing… But… It was a disaster… as soon as I got pregnant…. my doctor said… Omg we started with protactinium to begin with…there was low proteston levels… low amniotic fluids, bleeding…placenta previa and each week started getting more and more like taunting… no one told me about nausea…. and it was… I was very depressed… because I am taking injections everyday… It has made me put on lot of weight… you know you are trying to hold the baby against all the odds.. I was just lying on the bed… with my legs up and couldn’t change my positions often…. I was really scared because one has this vision of being pregnant and in 20’s and you get conceived in 30’s..and everyone will be like… Omg You waited so long…Hello, I was busy being an actress….. so, all these fears combated and when the bay came out I was 32kgs out I couldn’t even wrap my head around it…. from the point of people seeing the baby in my hand…. and they will be like when are you gonna loose your weight now? I was just nose dived… I didn’t want to be photographed…. I was so ashamed as to what had happened… and they was this dicotami of being this actressa nd what will people say to me know I don’t recognize myself.. how will they recognize me? and it was very bad and it took me almost like one year to get up.. and start moving towards taking care of myself…. loosing weight and I didn’t leave this house for one year… Such a big thing… Imagine being a top actress…. to suddenly being shut down, and my husband was at my worst point… and I dont think even he realized when he would marry me he saw the strong women and he he also saw me calm down bow down to just being so depressed…… so, it’s been that journey the first journey…. the comeback has been even stronger where in I had to actually take therapy… I went for counselling… Because… I was very depressed…. and I never let that come between me and my son, or my husband… I tried my best to be the best mother.. But, I knew something was wrong.. people used to ask me like, you just gave up on everything…. I am like , Yea, I am a house wife now… but, the truth is that I was from the fact that I was secretly so being scared of being judged.because I just couldn’t get back to what I was…. and then I realized with homeopathy and then with the counselling… that you have to become a new version of yourself… and it doesn’t necessarily have to be that red carpet girl…or that saree glad or sex bomb… or that girl everyone loves… I need to reinvent… and then this whole journey came about… But, it so important to talk about it… and i am so glad that you are asking me these questions because, other wise anyone from telugu media will ask me only about NTR or Chiranjeevi So, I respect you to coming out and asking this hard hitting questions. because out there need to know that it exists. Exactly and in million moms this is the thing that we are trying to tell. It’s ok… You have been a working mother… and from working mother because of pregnancy…. or because of any issues you have to take a step back and taht’s normal for that phase…. That phase that is completely normal… dont compare it with the before phase… dont look too far into the future and think… I would have done this and that.. dont look at colleges and others who are doing well in life.. That’s what social media is… Its about for more… exactly… you will have pictures of peoples going around and filter-on I get upset when everyone posting perfect picture… I got heart-attack when I saw my early morning face with dark circles and no makeup… and i said I am an exhausted mom… and that’s the truth… I can look like this and I am also going to look like that and that’s what you also be…. so, dont worry about it… some one like you to be the top actress and to be talking like this… such a honor sameera.. sweet of you… because what you dont realize is words that you are talking is words medicine… there will some mother sitting at home and wouldn’t have gone out… she will listen to you and she will think… yea, this is normal… this is normal as a mother, just like how you got out.. like you were not afraid of getting pregnant in spite of so many conflicts you had in your first pregnancy…. i was never questioned also… I knew i will get pregnant again because… my husband and me we are so attached to our siblings…. that we already made this decision… and we want to do it two years right after my first child…. but I was physically and emotionally not ready…. we knew it was coming…. which was already decided…. now when I got pregnant people are like wow, really…. don’t you remember how bad it was the first time… yea.. of course it doesn’t have to be the same… you know… the biggest challenge with social media is it’s great…like it helped you liberate now… at the same time when you were not posting it… there were few moms who post so much… and seeing them we think they are leading an ideal life and we are not able to do anything of such sort…. exactly… I didn’t get into social media for 3 to 4 years…. because I felt… very intimidated.. I would see lot of actresses and feel WOW… just look at that…. they are just like living it and here I am just breast feeding and upset… I realized that….I got into Instagram 3 moths ago and sometimes the DM I get, they actually bring me to tears…. there will be some random mom sitting in some corner and saying…. you wont understand i have going on a evening walk and decided to spend that time for me…. I need my me time and I am trying to keep up with something i couldn’t and thank you for at-least giving me that start…. It’s been nice and it’s been therapeutic for me…. before may be my intention was how many fans would I get… how many hits that I get… and that’s changed now…. now its like we are all human beings… and we are all together.. at some point… we are trying to look good.. feel something… which I am not able to express and i am looking for that, Its nice to find something real… and anything can inspire you…So even my words can give one little thing to one single mom and if 100 people troll me for it.. It is perfectly fine for me…. I ma not scared to bring it on… Awesome… I am going to take it a little more deeper…. because you have been very candid… prank and upfront…. I am so glad that I am bale to talk this way to you because…. this is what is real and this is what all of us go through…. and that is the fact… some point or the other…. for some people it would take a decade to figure out what is happening in their life…. they cant even figure out… and if they watch something like this… I would not take them long…. so… I am happy to speak the truth… I dont i time I went of social media… It came up….Everyone was using perfect filters and so on…. everything came so beautiful… but now interestingly now… it’s time for the real.. and I feel social media opened up this year…. i can feel that now because people are trying to talk and realizing it is traumatic when you constantly look at pictures and look at stories of people living this perfect life…. which is not true… It is like opening a magazine and looking at a perfect add and which is photo shopped and x1000 times… because it is lammed at you from every corner…. it may be the perfect moment that is captured… but we are not taking about the 99 pictures which are not captured…. It is almost like advertising on steroids… and I feel now they are ready to accept the fact that i put a picture recently and i didn’t even notice there was a stretch mark on my shoulder…. which was very small and two three people noticed and said.. Mam you are not even covering your stretch marks… and I said really… how do you notice it… who cares…? why are we trying to cover it up.. these are scars of my WOW…. my weight….. we should come from that space where everybody should move to a better or else my son is gonna grow up and become wage… because we are talking about stretch marks…. there are so many creams that are peddled out… once you get your stretch marks they are going to stay for life… no matter what you are going to do…. mothers it is a fact that you have to live in… I had a beautiful ab…. but post pregnancy… It is totally scar.. I don’t understand why it is a bad thing… I wnanna give you guys a super tricks and I dont know how i came across this… In my first pregnancy… I was gifted with lot of creams… full of my table… my husband calls it a dukhan… literally it is a cover full of stuff… and I use castor oil…. and I use it from the first shot I got pregnant… Before sleeping I apply that thick castor oil which is sticky and disgusting…. I mix it with lotion.. It can be anything… even a normal Vaseline works… i will apply that thick layer and let it dry… the elasticity that comes from that will prevent the skin from breakout… Though I smell like a oil factory I tried my best and still continue to apply it on… castor oil is the cheapest thing that you get in the market…