Rediscover Me Day 20 | How to Pursue Passions

Rediscover Me Day 20 | How to Pursue Passions


Good Morning Pretties!! I’m so late today
all right so welcome to Coffee Chat! We’ve gotten a lot of new followers at
GYPO lately I’m so excited so for those of you who don’t know me I’m
Allison, I am the creator of Get Your Pretty On, which is a style resource for
real women who just want to look cute and put together for our daily Target
run and we just want easy style, right? So I provide a lot of different outfit
formulas which are pieces that most of the time you can just pull from your
closet and put together into an outfit. I am a recovering yoga pants’ addict, which
I still spend more time in my yoga pants then I should admit – like right now, I
have them on. I start every day in my yoga pants, but one thing I discovered is it’s
just as easy to put on a cute outfit as long as you have the right pieces in
your closet. So I’m part stylist and part life coach. Right now I’m doing a 28 day
coaching program called the Rediscover Me Challenge and this is something that
I wrote actually five years ago whenever I got my life coaching certification and
I saw the things that were working the best for the clients I was working
with one on one I decided to sit down and try to break that out into tiny
bite-size chunks that you could implement on a daily basis. So for the
month of February, our community has been doing this Challenge and it’s been
amazing I wasn’t sure what to expect I’ve never done anything like this
before on the scale and doing lives every day to go with it,
so it’s been a really really good experience and I have heard back from so
many of you who have taken action on the daily exercises and that alone has been
an amazing reward for doing this so thank you guys for participating today.
Instead of discussing one of the day’s exercises I have a wild card day because
once a week we have an implementation day and then we have a day where we
focus on setting goals for the week ahead so today is a goals focus
day, I’m not sure it might be an implementation day,
I’ve I’ve fallen behind no I haven’t fallen behind,
I’m just not paying attention, but anyway I’m gonna talk about a wildcard topic
today and if you’re on my secret email list, that email just hit your inbox
about nine minutes ago so if you haven’t had a chance to read it yet, I’m gonna
talk a little bit about what’s in there today and I normally don’t talk about
the secret email, it’s something that my newsletter subscribers get if you’re not
on the list you can sign up at getyourprettyon.com/thelist so go
ahead and do that and you’ll be on for next month. But I am gonna talk a little
bit about today’s because I think it’s really important and it’s something that
I want to share with a broader audience I’m not gonna share everything that’s in
the email so if you’re on the list don’t worry I’m not gonna give away all the
secrets, but I am gonna talk a little bit about my journey and pursuing your
passion even if you’re not quite sure would you want to be when you grow up
and I was not quite sure even up to six years ago, actually five years ago. So a
little bit about my story, six years ago today I got laid off from my job in
corporate America. I was a telecom engineer for 14 years and although the
layoff wasn’t entirely a surprise it’s also something I wasn’t completely
prepared for and had no idea what the next chapter was gonna look like. I’m not
gonna lie though it’s something I secretly prayed for, I knew that I wasn’t
in the right career, I wasn’t doing something that lit me up. The pay was
good, the benefits were great, the people were nice that I worked with but it just
wasn’t what I was designed to do it was not my life’s work and I knew that and
something inside of me was just constantly telling me that, so I tried
somethings and I tried a lot of things and you know that was really part of the
part of the journey that led to me discovering what I do today and figuring
out what combination of my unique skills and talents and experiences and all that
stuff how that was all good come together to have my life’s work
which is what I’m doing now. I truly believe that everything that I’ve ever
done has led to this point so if this is something that you’re struggling with
and you’re like nodding your head right now thinking oh my gosh that’s me I’m in
that career right now and this is not what’s you know this is not my life’s
work and I know that then I want to specifically talk to you today about
this, so you know I said I prayed for this layoff to come to be and I survived
I don’t know, like three years of rounds of layoffs and watched people continue to
lose their jobs and every time I had this like guilt that I kind of wished
that I was in their position and wanted you know somebody else to make this
decision for me and to tell me that it was time to move on and find something
else but it just wasn’t happening so what that did was that gave me an
opportunity to start to explore introduce some research and to dig in
and figure out some things that might be a good path for me and you know if this
is a place that you’re at right now and you’re thinking I don’t know what that
is but this also making sense to me then I want you to think back so the first
thing that is really powerful is to think back when you were a kid like,
third grade for instance, I think around eight years old is when we haven’t
really had the messages of the world and our parents imprinted upon us and we are
still thinking about what we love and what we want to do without all that
opinion nattering so think back to that time in your life and what did you do
then what did you enjoy what did you imagine and roleplay and dream that you
would be when you grew up and I’ll share mine I wanted to be a singer so the cool
thing is I think it was in third grade actually our art teacher had us draw a
picture of what we wanted to be when we grew up and then she saved those and on
our graduation day she gave them to us which was the coolest thing I’m getting
chills right now thinking about it but it was such a cool thing
because I had completely forgotten about what I had drawn and when I saw it I was
standing on stage with microphone singing and I just thought it was such a
cool thing to see and think about something I hadn’t thought about in
years and the sad thing about it is that I can’t sing so, but I think it
represented something else to me that seeing myself up there on that stage and
performing was giving me some vital clues about where my path should go
although I ignored a lot of those clues for a really long time for a variety of
reasons but I wanted to do theater in college and I was very shy and I didn’t
really have any experience so I never you know took any classes in that or and
just completely shied away from it and went down the path of what I thought
would bring me a career instead of choosing the thing that interested me or
that I was passionate about but whenever I did you know get into my career and
having a family all of that stuff started to come back again when I wasn’t
as focused on you know I need to find a job right now or you know when we had
really little kids it was really hard to focus on what I wanted to do so
eventually I signed up for an acting class as an adult I think I was in my
late 20s at the time and that was really powerful for me it was something that
I’d wanted to do for years I was so scared and so nervous and so shy and I
thought you know what I’m just gonna go for it what do I have to lose at this
point so I signed up for my first acting class and it went really well and I
ended up actually being half-decent and my instructor started to notice and they
had agents that were working actors many of them were and recommended that I try
to get an agent which I totally did not feel ready for but
ahead and took a chance I got an agent I started booking work and then I got an
even better agent a really good one and I started booking really good work and I
did national commercials and spokesperson worked for a bunch of big
corporations and some independent films and had some really cool fun experiences
and I think the best part of that journey for me was gaining confidence
and getting out of my comfort zone and you know just really getting out of my
shell and seeing that this is something that I could do I did that for about
eight years and then things started to shift again and I was like okay this is
cool and fun but I feel like I’m supposed to be serving in some other way
like there’s some deeper thing inside of me and I think that’s when I decided I
actually started working with a coach a life coach and that’s when I realized
when working with her that that was something that I wanted to pursue too so
I got my life and business coaching certification I started coaching
one-on-one with clients and I did that for a few years now mind you this all of
this stuff overlapped with my full-time job in corporate America so it was a
busy time in my life and I had to carve out time away from my family. I used to
feel terribly guilty when I would go to my acting classes in the evenings and
you know feel like I was missing out, but Craig was always super supportive of
that and do that it was something that was good for me and that I needed to do
so I was lucky in that regard but the same thing with coaching it’s something
I had to do in the evenings and on the weekends and you know I did that for a
few years and then about six months before my layoff is when I started
blogging and when I started blogging it was just a creative outlet of something
fun to do it was an accountability partner. I never really thought of it any kind of business model of any sort, it was just a way for me to be
creative because I wasn’t acting anymore and it was a way for me to share the
things I was learning I’d love to share advice and tips and tricks and make
people’s lives easier and that’s one of the things that just
gives me so much joy and I felt like this was an outlet for doing that so
fast-forward to six months after that I find out that I’m getting laid off and I
worked with a career counselor at the time that was assigned to me through the
company I used to work for and I was talking to her about what’s one of my
next steps and she listened to everything I had to say analyze the
opportunities in front of me which were, I really had, I think like, four choices
at that time I could go for another corporate job in Telecom probably, I
could go back to acting, I could do life coaching, or I could stick with the blog
and see what happened. The biggest risk at the time was
sticking with the blog but it was also the one that she after listening to me
she’s like do you hear how you like up and how your voice changes when you talk
about the blog and Get Your Pretty On and what you’re doing over there like
that to me is the biggest clue about the direction you should head in and she
said, “Why don’t you, you have a severance package,” which was a huge blessing.
I’m not gonna lie, if you’re sitting there right now and like oh my gosh I’d
love to do this but I don’t have anybody making it happen because of my budget or
whatever I did have a severance package which made the transition so much easier
and I got six months severance but I made it stretch for a whole year we made
huge cutbacks in our family and it was it was a tough year and I had to have a
lot of faith and I’m not gonna lie there were many days that I didn’t think I was
gonna make a go of it I got to a around at the one-year mark and had a
little bit of severance left and I had poured everything that I had into GYPO
and trying you know to blog consistently and grow a following and all that good
stuff but the fact is I got to the end of my severance and I was not making any
money at all blogging and it’s weird to talk about monetization and blogging and
all this good stuff but I was pouring
so much of myself into it more hours than I would have at a full-time job and
it wasn’t turning into anything so that’s when right before like I can
look back in my journal and see how scary that was at that point and how my
prayers were just really you know I was relying on God to come through big time
at that point and He did and that’s when I launched the first Style Challenge
Capsule Wardrobe Program and I just really listened to what GYPO readers
wanted and what would make life easier for them and created the program around
that specifically and that was the turning point where I was my initial
goal was I said I would be happy if I could make half of my salary that I was
making in corporate America because at that point we had learned to live on
half of my income. I took the year of severance and made a stretch or the six
months I made a stretch for a year so we were used to living on half of my income
and that wasn’t you know a big stretch for me at that time so really just that
first year getting back to that goal of me bringing money and again that wasn’t
part of my severance was huge and such a blessing and and I’ve continued you know
growing the business, I finally am to a point where I think it was, last year
where I started paying myself a salary through the business, which is super
exciting, I even have a 401 K, I feel like such a big grown-up business owner now,
but what does this have to do with you? I think the moral of this story is that if
you don’t feel like you’re doing what you were designed to do, if you don’t
feel like you’re doing your life’s work like, it’s so important to figure that
out that , you were made to do something more and you know just if you don’t have
the money to do it then pursue something on the side, you
know dabble in something else, take a class, do some research, maybe you want to
get a certification, or you want to go back to school, whatever it is,
You only get one chance and like to do this so I just think it’s super
important to figure that out and to try things because, you, even if it feels like
you’re failing you’re really not failing you know you could look back on some
of the things that I tried and say well that was a failure but it wasn’t because
I learned something about myself and I grew from it and it took me to the next
level and then and I unexpectedly and accidentally stumbled across my
life’s work just by not being afraid to try things and I think that’s you know
the biggest advice I have I’ve got a son graduating from college, you know a
daughter who’s a sophomore in college and I have just been emphasizing to them
over and over again it’s okay not to know right now because your 20s can be
about trying things and before you have all of the responsibilities and the
trappings and the mortgage and the family and all that stuff, try things and
see what resonates and see what works for you and if nothing else you’re gonna
get experience and that is so valuable and so vital but the same thing goes for
it you know someone my age you’re over 40 and you don’t know what you know what
you want to do what you want to be when you grow up it’s okay it’s okay try
something and even if it doesn’t work out it doesn’t mean that you’re a
failure I I look back on the different ideas
that I’ve had and sometimes I laugh at them and I feel silly about some of the
things that I’ve done but I also see the gifts in all of those things and how
they were such an important part of the journey. So I like to give you an
actionable item in each of these Coffee Chats and today’s action is to do
something if you’re not a hundred percent happy in your career or where
you are with life maybe you’ve already retired or I don’t know what
life stage you’re in right now or maybe your kids just went off to school and
you are you know wondering what’s next for you take some time, today, take thirty
minutes and do some research about something that you enjoy that lights
you up, that resonates with you, volunteer somewhere, talk to somebody who has a
career that you might be interested in, there are so many things that you can do
but take action and start to figure it out, you don’t have to have all the
answers right now, you just have to pick one thing and take action today because
the rest of your life depends on it. Figure this out, trust me when I
say there is a better way – if I could look back six years ago and go visit
myself, like time travel back to that day and say everything is going to be
okay and not only is it going to be okay but you are gonna have more more
fulfillment and more excitement and you’re gonna jump out of bed in the
morning and want to actually work I mean that was a foreign concept to me back
then I couldn’t imagine being so excited about my work that it would come into my
thoughts the first thing in the morning and it was like the one thing that made
me jump out of bed excited to do it now just I think we all deserve that and I
think you deserve that and I want you to find that too so please take some action
today do some research, do some soul-searching
think about what you wanted to do when you’re a kid, and and do something about
it because the times gonna pass anyway why not use it to find what your true
purpose is and what is gonna light you up alright that’s all I got for you today
I’ll be back here tomorrow it’s another implementation or focus day so we’ll
have another wildcard topic that we’ll be discussing but I hope you guys have
an awesome day! Bye!