The Secret to Healthier and Happier Relationships | Happiness Challenge Day 6

The Secret to Healthier and Happier Relationships | Happiness Challenge Day 6


such a large part of our human life is
spent in dealing with people whether at home or at work or with society at large
we need to enter into so many relationships and keep them harmonious
to succeed in our goal of life and yet these very relationships often remain
one of the biggest enemas for people today on the sixth day of the happiness
challenge we are going to talk about the art of having healthy and happy
relationships consider this scenario a three year old girl is walking next to
her mother in the mall she looks like a little angel on earth with a wonderful
smile on her face however when they reach the checkout counter the situation
changes the girl points to a chocolate in the Shelf if the mother gives it to
her the situation remains the same but perchance if the mother denies her
daughter’s wish that is when all hell breaks loose
the daughter starts stomping her feet tugging at her mother’s dress and
screaming making her mother wonder why did she ever have a child
what transformed this little angel to a demon in few seconds it was her
expectations as long as the mother was fulfilling her expectations
the mother was good but the moment the mother denied her expectations that is
when the relationship got strained most of us have not grown up from the level
of that three-year-old when it comes to relationships we have our expectations
from father mother sister brother husband wife son daughter as long as
they fulfill them they are all very nice it is when they do not do as we expect
them to do that our mood goes off so what do we need to do to be happier than
just give up these expectations and all expectations can never be fulfilled in
any case the boss expects from the husband that he will stay in the office
till 8 o’clock to show his loyalty and his dedication to the organization the
newly weds wife expects from the same husband that he will be home by 6
o’clock so that they can have quality time together
now if the husband fulfills one expectation the other will be
disappointed the disappointments are natural
nobody can fulfill everybody’s expectations and that is what disrupts
relationships the husband came home after a hard day at the office expecting
that when he reaches he will be given the Royal Treatment from his wife and
children who will go gaga about the way he has been working to fill their stock
but the wife had been taken care of June Amano at home and been frustrated she
had another set of expectations the moment the husband entered the house she
said darling the coffee has been spilt on the floor by the youngest son please
clean it up and after that do help me lay the dinner on the table the husband
killed his expectations he did what he was asked and then he sat down after
dinner to watch the television when the elder son came to him Papa will you play
video games with me please you have to play that is when the
husband lost his temper and he said nobody cares for me nobody likes me here
I’m fed up of you all and annoyed and furious he retired to his bedroom
leaving everybody builded what had happened instead of that if the husband
had just lowered the bar of his expectations he would have found a
different response from his family that is why it is said first try to
understand before being understood the others have their own sets of issues and
worries and anxieties if they don’t live up to our expectations why not give them
the benefit of the doubt when we learn to drop these high standards for others
while maintaining them upon ourselves that is when we become better at
relationships and are able to make our lives happier this was the first tool in
handling relationships tomorrow we are going to discuss an even more powerful
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